“Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap on a rope.” Bill Cosby
Unless you are hiking in the Australian outback or cruising the Mediterranean, you probably know it’s Father’s Day. There’s no escaping the tv and internet images of families grilling out and celebrating dads.
This year you might be missing your father. If you are, you’re not alone.
My dad’s name was John Glenn. He was not the astronaut, but occasionally this John Glenn didn’t mind leveraging his famous name in a crowded restaurant. Once he was asked if he was “the real John Glenn.” When he answered yes, a table somehow became available. Go dad.
Sometimes he let us play in his office, fully furnished with carbon paper, stamp pads and an adding machine the size of a Boeing 747. Even now a whiff of pipe tobacco takes me back to his office. Thankfully, there were no nicotine police then. I’ll never forget the day I filled his cherished wooden pipe with bubbles. As it turned out, the bubble pipe caper only happened once.
Dad never threw away our handmade gifts. The clay hand prints and waxed paper bookmarks filled with melted crayons were proudly displayed on his desk, along with photos of his five kids. Even the awkward beautiful middle school pictures with dominant front teeth, before braces stayed right on his desk. He probably would have loved soap on a rope.
How about you?If you are missing your dad right now, or maybe you are a father grieving the loss of a beloved child, Father’s day can feel suffocating. What will you do with Father’s day this year? Maybe one of these ideas will help:
Change things up. Spend time with family or friends who understand. Be intentional as you plan a strategy for the holiday. You might even want to get out of town somewhere refreshing and away from the Father’s day crowds.
Tell somebody. Often after losing someone, you’re surrounded by people, flowers and a mountain of cards. Then, a few weeks later the flowers fade and everybody seems to disappear. The silence can be deafening. If you’re struggling this Father’s day you may have to let someone know. Friends might need a little coaching to know what you need.
Remember. Telling your family’s stories is one of the best ways to keep memories fresh and begin to heal. Let people know it’s okay to say the name of the person you’re missing.
Never quit telling the story of the life that’s much too important to be forgotten.
How are you honoring your dad or honoring his memory this Father’s day?