
In the 17 weeks since getting the news about my brother, Mike that literally took my breath away, the outpouring of kindness~ cards, flowers, planting of trees, meals & tributes to Mike~ has been overwhelming. Thank You thank you.
In recent weeks, I’ve received a few unexpected gifts that have triggered joy like crazy:
- people calling to share a funny or sentimental story about Mike.
- friends saying his name- absolutely the sweetest reminder that his life is still touching countless people on this side of Heaven.
- photos of Mike coming to my inbox or US mailbox- like this treasure (above) of Mike and his grandson, Grady living their best lives fishing together. Pure Delight!
Here’s what I know:
- if you have stories, videos or photos of my brother, send them!
- if you’re worried that saying their name will make us sad, remember what @griefkid said on Instagram- “it’s not reminding us that they died. It’s reminding us that they lived.”
- if you get a “holy nudge” to do something thoughtful for your friend~ do it!
- make the call, send the card, schedule the coffee date… whatever, just do it! Even if someone doesn’t respond right away- continue reaching out. Texts, calls, notes, even a small gift are terrific ways to say, “you haven’t been forgotten,”
Well that’s it for today.
May the Lord bless you mightily with His peace, comfort and love.
You are not alone.
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